“I do not sit down at my desk to put into verse something that is already clear in my mind. If it were clear in my mind, I should have no incentive or need to write about it. We do not write in order to be understood; we write in order to understand.”
This quote speaks to my heart on the deepest level. Do you ever read or hear something that just resonates with you? Almost like someone put into words exactly what you are feeling or experiencing. This quote does that for me.
I started a blog not because I pretend to know everything or to give myself a platform to portray that I have everything figured out. No, I write because I have this undeniable desire to understand and maybe a splash of desire to be understood. With that being said, the topic of this week’s post (and most posts) comes from a place of wanting to understand more and be a little bit better at life.
So lately, and by lately I mean all of my adult life, I’ve struggled with thedestination mindset.
“If I could just…”
“When I finally…”
The problem with “if’s” and “whens” is that they are never enough. Maybe it’s just me… Maybe I’m too expectant out of life. I’m not sure. Again, I’m writing from the perspective of wanting to understand… So bear with me on this.
I want to be happy now. In the journey. In the process. Despite where I’m at on my way to the to the end destination of the perception of the life that I should be living. Why is it so difficult to enjoy the now? Maybe it’s not… Maybe we just don’t know how.
I’ve spent my entire life preparing… In high school we prepare for college. In college we prepare for our careers. When you’re dating you prepare for marriage and in marriage for children. Always preparing, always looking ahead to the next season. Always hoping that when we finally get there, we will be rewarded with some missing piece that we lacked in our current state. The vicious cycle of the “ifs” and “whens.” Perhaps that would have been a better title for this post.
People that I believe live a truly happy and fulfilling life do not live destination to destination; trapped in an unsatisfying mindset. And you know what? I bet they don’t live paycheck to paycheck either… Related? Probably.
Do you struggle with this? If you are finding yourself wishing away the season that you’re in right now in hope of a better one in the future then you have been trapped. Of course you should look forward to things in your life and prepare as much as you can for them, but if you’re getting so caught up in living for your future happy you need to take a step back.
Why are you waiting for something to make you happy and give you a sense of success or peace? What are you waiting for?
stop waiting, start living.
Some practical ways to enjoy your life now.
Get out a good cry and a belly laugh
Organize your Spotify playlist
Spend more time alone
Spend more time with quality people
Go for a long drive
Fall in love with your job
Fall in love with a physical activity
Turn your phone off
Clean out your closet
Clean out your purse
Clean up your diet
Stop apologizing for being yourself
Stop justifying yourself
Create something beautiful
Read a book
Take a class
Book a flight to somewhere new
“Don’t let your happiness depend on something that you may lose.”